Validating suffering

Possible explanations (other than psychopathy) are: a low capacity for empathy and compassion, not understanding or valuing the importance of validation, and/or not knowing how to express it effectively. The well-intentioned invalidators often defend that the goal is to help someone feel better or differently — to an emotion they judge as a more accurate, more valid one.

If you’re the recipient of invalidating messages, know this: YOU’RE NOT CRAZY!

These behaviors are viewed essentially as a way to communicate those emotions, especially in people with memory loss, confusion, disorientation, and other symptoms of dementia.

Validation therapy was developed over time, between 19, by Naomi Feil; her first book on validation was published in 1982.

Other clinicians tell of anecdotal evidence of the effectiveness of validation therapy in decreasing challenging behaviors and emotional distress.

While there's not a definite conclusion backed by research, it does appear that validation therapy may be a tool that's worth understanding and using in some circumstances, for some people.

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But those things, which God before had shewed by the mouth of all his prophets, that Christ should suffer, he hath so fulfilled” (Acts –18).

They leave the conversation feeling much different than at the start, questioning themselves.

Some individuals knowingly invalidate others as a form of manipulation, control, and psychological injury.

A couple of Cochrane Database Systemic Reviews conclude there's insufficient evidence to conclude that it's effective — not meaning that it's ineffective, but that there wasn't strong enough data to show that it is clearly helpful.

As a clinical professional, I've seen many instances in which validation therapy has worked very well, and others where it did not, and only succeeded in irritating the person.

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