Plenty of people — friends, family, and lovers — have continued to love me even when I was down on myself.But I do think that being the best partner that you can be significantly improves your dating life, because it really teaches you how to be alone with yourself.I'm not saying that you have to cut yourself off from dating in order to better date yourself.I'm just saying that you should take yourself on more dates. Ask yourself what you want for dinner tonight, and then, cook it. But you and yourself are still stuck together forever.But I did go more than a year without being in a relationship, which was my reason for making that somewhat unrealistic resolution in the first place.Prior to setting this intention, I hadn't been single for several years.I was able to pour the tenderness and care that I expended on relationships back into myself.If singleness is not your goal, setting resolutions for healthier dating habits can still change your romantic life.
Having that time to myself gave me the space I needed to get my priorities together and become better attuned to what I needed to nurture myself.Checking back in with your intentions can help you make sure that, when something feels right, it's actually right.I don't buy into that "nobody's going to love you until you love yourself" BS.When you find ways to nurture the relationship you have with yourself, it helps protect you from toxic people who might come into your life. You're much more likely to find someone who wants to travel than someone who wants to go to Venice with you next month.It will also help you create secure attachments in your romantic pursuits, because you won't feel as dependent on a relationship to sustain you. Describe it in as full detail as possible, and don't hold back. But when you have the qualities you are looking for, consider the list your own private treasure map.